Recently I was at a medical appointment with a family member. We were scared, discussing a pretty serious eye condition.
The doctor poked his head into the exam room where tests were underway and simply put his hand on my shoulder. It was so totally unexpected and so totally healing. Immediately, I felt better, I felt like someone understood our pain, and that a connection was made. A simple connection that changed my day, now lingers on my mind. What is the power of touch? Why did I feel better?
As Michelle Trudeau explains in her article, Human Connections Start With a Friendly Touch, touch causes levels of the stress hormone cortisol to drop. Touch can also cause lowering of blood pressure and a lower heart rate. A friendly contact also can increase the release of oxytocin which affects trust behaviors. A simple touch, wow, who knew?
Everyone is different with what they considerable acceptable regarding touch. As one approaches adulthood touch becomes a tricky subject, often thought of as purely sexual and therefore, used with caution. One wouldn’t want to send out the wrong signals. Maybe instead of worrying about sending out the wrong signals we should be reaching out to each other with a simple touch to help acknowledge the everyday human condition.
The simple touch that entwines our sense of sharing, belonging, understanding, and caring for each other is just what is needed to bring calm.
Touch someone today, really touch them, and let them know you are there for them.
Live your dreams,
P.S. The eye is fine.